4 Ways to Find Stillness Within
“When you lose touch with inner stillness, you lose touch with yourself. When you lose touch with yourself, you lose yourself in the world. Your innermost sense of self, of who you are, is inseparable from stillness. This is the I Am that is deeper than name and form.” Eckhart Tolle
What would it feel like if you allowed yourself to just be right where you are?
Right here. Right now.
To stop pushing and chasing and to allow yourself to be fully immersed in the present moment.
To feel the soles of your feet as you rest them against the earth. The warmth of the vibrations that echo up through you weaving in and out of every ounce of your being. To feel the cold air that you breathe in through your nostrils and the warmth that you expel as you breathe out. To notice the cool brush of air that sweeps your body as you move ever so gently.
These moments are what brings us back to ourselves.
To the space in between our thoughts.
It’s hard to not get caught up in the busyness of life – of planning – of ticking things off our list – of all that we feel we need to do. The constant chatter in our minds, the buzz and noise that often surrounds our days. It is no wonder that finding stillness within takes practice.
In this fast paced world I am conscious of the fluctuations of my own mind. Silence at times can be hard to find as my mind races back and forth. In taking time to be still and become aware of the thoughts, there often is a continual theme; The future. Next week. Next month. A few months time. The end of the year. Next Year. I find myself wanting to be “there” already.
But what is “there”?
‘There’ is our projection and where we think we will find our end point. The point of where it all comes ‘together.
But what if we are already all-together now?
What if NOW is all we really have?
What if we just allow ourselves to just be.
To hold the space to breathe.
Completely in the present moment without attachment to the outcome.
To trust the process of change and the ebbs and flows of life.
To see the lessons that life presents us and lean into them.
Acknowledging. Accepting. Surrendering.
4 Ways to Find Stillness Within
Meditation has been proven to change the pathways in the brain. It is what allows us to live in the moment and to find stillness within. Various studies have shown that in slowing down our respiratory rate and breathing deeply into our stomachs produces a whole range of health benefits, including helping with depression, anxiety and every day stress.
The simplest way to begin meditating is to focus on the breathe. To allow our breathe to be our guiding force. Easing us into stillness. Our breathe is what connects us to the energy of the universe. It is the first thing we do when we arrive on this planet, and it is the last thing we do as we die. Our breathe is one thing that is always with us. It is our home base that we can return to time and time again. Through breathing consciously we can in effect learn to let our thoughts drift past, to detangle from their ever elusive pathways – from the hooks of thinking about the past or the future, therefore allowing us to find stillness and become centred.
There are a number of breathing meditations that you can do, however this is a good place to start. It is an ever evolving process. Be patient and stick with it.
Allow yourself to sit in a comfortable position with a straight spine. Have your feet resting on the floor and your hands resting gently on your knees. Close your eyes allowing your mind to become still. Allow the focus to turn inward. Allow yourself to breathe right into the pit of your belly. As you breathe in focus your mind on the edge of your nose, feeling the air coming in and as you exhale notice the air releasing. You might like to count 1,2,3,4 as you breathe in, allowing the inhale and the exhale to be the same length.
Meditation using a mantra
As you inhale through your nose repeat in your mind the word “let” and as you exhale say the word “go”.
Try breathing in light, exhaling darkness. Breathing in love and compassion, breathing out sadness and grief.
If you find your mind continuing to speed up and the chatter continuing on, know that this is completely normal. Be mindful of the breath and keep coming back to the present. Allow yourself to notice the thoughts drifting by like a cloud that hangs in the sky. You can even trying saying to yourself “thinking” and then return to the breath. In allowing yourself to just notice and not get caught up with the thoughts, you will find that as you allow your thoughts to just be, your emotions will follow suit. As the mind wanders, keep bringing it back to the present, time and time again.
Automatically and effortlessly as you breathe in and out, allow yourself to let go, to soften and to find stillness.
Listen to your body
In all that you do, notice the feeling that resides in your body. Your feelings whilst may at times not be pleasant they are the GPS of your soul. Start to pay attention to them. Begin to befriend them.
Do you feel:
- Expanded or contracted
- Awake or Asleep
- Light or heavy
- Inspired or gloomy
Become aware of what may or may not be affecting you both physically and emotionally.
If you notice yourself all of a sudden feeling exhausted for no apparent reason, back track in your mind and think about what it was that you just did. Being someone who is super sensitive to the emotions of other people I can often find I will “pick up” on things.
A good way to clear this, is to say to yourself, whilst putting your hand in the centre of your diaphragm (above your belly button where your solar plexus is) “Please release anything that is not mine that I may be carrying for others” and to visualise yourself being enveloped in a yellow light.
Give yourself this energetic sweep often if you are a sensitive little being!
There is so much goodness that yoga brings to the whole body – physically, mentally, and spiritually that to go into in depth would take up a whole blog post…In short, Yoga for me has completely changed my life and I cannot talk highly enough of the impact it has had.
Find a yoga class or studio that you connect with and make it a priority in your life.
Connect with Nature
Nature grounds me. It is my soul food. The beach is my bliss. The water + the fresh air + the sand – there is something about it that brings my spirit alive. Find what it is for you that nourishes you and that brings this stillness to your core. Hint: you’ll take the biggest breathe out and feel all warm, fuzzy and alive.
Make it a non-negotiable to your week!
So beautiful, my message for this week is to be here, right now.
Be all of you in this world.
There’s nothing wrong with you.
You are right where you need to be.
Stop questioning, stop second guessing and trust.
Trust that life is unfolding for your higher good in divine timing.
Offer your worries up to your higher power (God/Universe/Buddha or whoever it is that you believe in) and know that you are being held – that you have the space to move and to be breathe and to receive what it is that you need.